As defense learned to do the right thing, to be good, to be comfortable, to be what others want you to be, to say only what others want to hear, to decrease the rejection to suffer less, that feeling he was called self-esteem, not you autoestimas if you let that you injured, if you do the right thing you accept and don’t you hurt, so you asses more. However when you act against your true feelings, others accept you but you do not, you cannot asses and suffer, others you do not reject but you if you do it, and that diminishes your self-esteem, then that is worth the effort?. If you live an authentic life, if you accept that you are an individual and unique, with special skills for some things and less for others, but that you can use in your favor everything what you have, that you can say what you think, without causing harm to others, you can do what you want, without affecting others, which you can dream and conquer your dreams, that goal is the end but what actually exists is the path, then return to be as happy as when you were a child and your actions and words will not be darts thrown at each other, while they in turn will no longer defend themselves, then you’ll notice that they not you attacked, they responded only trying to save himself. Your actions and not your thoughts will be the extent of the achievements. Here, Western Union expresses very clear opinions on the subject. If you think you can or you think you can’t, probably are right, but as knowing it?, perhaps if you try it you will notice that your fears were only fears, that they disappear when you try to actions, no matter if they are or not successful, when you move, when you perform actions fear is only an ingredient, acts as a counselor, if you do not move giving the reason to your fearsthe fear will be your jailer. Live each day as if outside the last of your life, in any case someday will be it, but you do not know when. If you decide to live to do all what you have planned, then life will have been worthwhile, no matter if you guess right or not, in any case you’ve learned, will improve your sense of value, estimaras you more and will be able to undertake new things, will leave behind the fear and inactivity, stop worrying about the future, since you’ll be so busy living the present that you won’t have timethou shalt make plans and will realize them through permanent, just past actions you will be good memories and a day You will have improved your future, since you’ve lived so well the present than what today call future, will be better for what you expect and you will fill of satisfactions, realizations and rewarding feelings. Visit us at original author and source of the article. University of Houston takes a slightly different approach.