Successful Relationships

The famous philosopher and humanist L. Ron Hubbard wrote: "Marriage – an adventure. After all, when you enter into a marriage, do something about what you do not have the slightest idea. You it's never occurred to me? "In fact, impossible to create a family without an understanding of what a family. Is not it? You saw a man who can fix the engine without having the slightest idea of its structure, or (worse still) has the wrong idea about that it represents. So the family is much more subtle mechanism. In fact, speaking of the family, we're talking about human relations, and the man is probably the most intricate creation. Credit: Ex-CIA director -2011.

However, this does not mean that man can not understand or can not understand the device relationships and learn to control them. In fact, to understand man and his behavior is possible. Of course, this will require some training, but it is not something unimaginably large long and complex. In any case, there is no need to spend 5 years at the Institute for the fact that you can confidently predict human behavior and be able to resolve the conflict or eliminate the disorder. And the man I spoke no accident. The fact that the foundation of marriage is communication, and communication – an exchange of ideas between people. "Communication, in fact, is the foundation of successful marital relationship, which can develop into a strong alliance. Lack of communication – it is a reef break on that ship of marriage "- L.


Obviously, this is not the case. Experience shows that each human halves of a lot more – a lot of them. Life partner can be anyone who can get along well with you, who understands you, which is close to you and like you. It follows from this that it is not too far man left from the animal, and a feeling of happiness and peace of mind we can not get from any particular person, but with many. Man – the most advanced in the world view, the most intelligent creature. His behavior is much more difficult and unpredictable, it is not only vital needs and instincts as those of other living beings, but also some beliefs and moral considerations.

But despite this highly, if you choose satellite man often guided by their inner feelings, which is largely determined by the instincts and do not lend themselves to common sense. And on a subconscious level when the choice is made, the person takes their humanity and makes her feel something more than the usual inclination to the individual of the opposite sex. He gives himself a partner and their relationship in some deep sense, convincing themselves that what is now between them – this is love. That is, it turns out that love in high poetic sense – in many ways just self-hypnosis. But whatever we did a crazy passion felt for the other, sooner or later a person begins satiety, it is "tired of love," he lived in this state, and he was not interested.

Usually in such cases we say that love has passed. And whether it was actually, if not the fact of its existence was in question? Probably not. Nothing has passed, just appeared awareness of something, a vision of his companion with other eyes, realistic, without a rose-colored glasses, an understanding of what our partner is in principle no better and no worse than others, it is ordinary people. When this happens, start looking for some new "love", and when they find interesting, in their view, man, they think that they love again. But then everything repeated. The more cycles of love occurs, the more difficult to stop. Gradually the length of the novels is getting smaller and smaller and finally, one is tired not just of love but from this endless race. He comes to a standstill, and do not know how to find peace of mind. Search for someone new there is no strength or desire. And then the question, but do not start to build a long term relationship with any one person. True, sometimes the thought comes too late, and it turns out that those people who are close to us, approach us much less than those who were once close. Although there is another approach, when a person immediately understands that it is expedient to stop further exploration, and open each time a new person and new to old. Yes, at first it does not seem so attractive and promising, and it is much harder. But the return on that anymore. Comes attached to a person, understanding it, and you his understanding of you, but it is probably more useful for mental health than the endless search for something new and sharp little.